We are interested in adopting. How best to direct a birth mother who has chosen adoption to our web page?

Question

Women who are currently pregnant and looking for adoptive parents might search the web. What is the best way to direct these women to our web page to learn more about us as potential adoptive parents?

Answer 1

Hi there, I too am an adoptive Mom and would love more then anything to adopt again. I have to warn you about trying to match up with a potential birth mom on Yahoo! Answers though. I thought there was great potential to meet someone here. I even went ahead and explained all the clearances I have to complete, the homestudy update and psychiatric evaluation, the financial evaluation, the child welfare and criminal clearances. This is done for everyone who adopts here, I believe. Atleast that is what I did when I adopted the first time. I took the time to explain all of this so that if someone was considering adoption for the baby they are carrying, they would feel safe about contacting me and know that I have been and have to again be fully investigated prior to adopting. Anyways, I was attacked on several occasions by people who accused my of "trolling" for birth mothers on here, and told that I was being inapproprite. So beware if this is what you choose to do. I still think the internet is a wonderful way for people to connect. I met my son's birth mother on the internet, we did a private direct adoption and things couldn't have gone better. So, I know it works. Just know that there are people on here, who like to have all their negative comments and hurtful and discouraging words posted, even though the situation has nothing to do with them! With all that said, I wish you the very, very best of luck with adding to your family through adoption. Parentprofiles is a popular website. If anyone is interested in emailing me, please feel free to do so and ask any questions at all. I can be contacted at [e-mail]

Answer 2

I have a very good relationship with my adoptive mother. To be honest, I started my search looking for my father. Adoptive fathers in my life left alot I mean alot to be desired. If a parent can love more than one child, then a child can love more than one parent. Its this way now in step parent relationships. I have been on that end too. Mothers come in all shapes and forms. I am the daughter of two women. Both have influenced me. Here is an example: When I had my first daughter, a friend came to visit. Somehow we got on the topic of adoption. I told her that I was an adoptee. She asked if I had ever searched. I told her that I want to but I didn't have the money to do so. She told me that she was a natural mother. I asked her the same question. She said that she felt that she didn't have the right to search. For a moment in time, I was her child and she was my natural mother. I have had this experience on numerous occasions. Its healing for me and my adoptive mother when I run into those situations. An adoptive mother could not have become a mother without another mother. Ask most of the adoptive mothers on this board, they will agree with that statement. If you love your child, you will honor your child's parents no matter who they are or how bad they are.

Answer 3

I would recommend contacting a local adoption agency. If you are looking to do a private adoption, you might want to call a few GYN/OB offices and see if they would let you post something (even if it's the back of the ladies' room door). You might also think about (and this will sound crazy) but one of the grocery store boards. Anything is worth a shot. You just need to let everyone you know that you are looking to adopt also. That is how we met our biological family - a neighbor knew them.



Good luck to you.

Answer 4

PLEASE go through an agency to save yourself ALOT of hearbreak. I am presently giving my child up for adoption and have run across many woman refusing to use agencies because they do not get "extra" money . Do it the right way and legally get an agency and a lawyer. DO not go the website route you will get alot of riffraff as I have seen already on this page, Anyone weary to go through an agency is prob looking for money sorry to say. Why would you refuse to go through an agency as a birth mother??? Think about that. Don't let your need and desire for a child blind you to the scammers out there..GOOD LUCK !

Answer 5

If you have a Craigslist in your area, you could put a posting up there. Other than that, when I chose a family for the baby I adopted out, I went through an agency. (That can be expensive, though)... worth it if you want the baby's mother to feel secure that she's placing her child in a good home!

Answer 6

You have to use some psychology on this one, because I know many birth mom wouldn't appreciate direct aproach, just try to be a little sensitive to the potential birth parents.

Answer 7

Hi there



There are lots of agencyies out there that can help you.

I am 6mnths preganant and looking for a adptoive family to

have my child as want to help people but like my self i do not

really want to go through an agency.



You have to be honest to the birth mother on what you want and that you are great parents to take the buddle of joy on.

Answer 8

i would NOT recommend going to message boards for birthparents who are contemplating adoption. as a birthmother, i found it insensitive for prospective parents to solicit and bombard bparents with requests and offers over the internet, no matter how innocent their intention (i'm not refering to you though). i would suggest using your url as a signature, which is less invasive. someone else suggested parentfprofiles..but above all, i would suggest going through an agency.

Answer 9

You should go through an agency that shows your profile. I don't know of anyone who would search for parents for her baby on the internet - you never know who you're talking to.

Answer 10

I have twins on the way I am looking for an adoptive couple, the last couple recently backed out because I refused to use their agency. If you can do private adoption in your state please email me. Looking to do closed adoption, Im in California.

Answer 11

Some links here:

http://abortionstop.com/

Answer 12

https://answersrip.com/question/index?qid=20070609160725AAyNh1C&show=7#profile-info-a781ee227f4463cda176c4c509085216aa

this is a question from earlier she is looking for adoptive parents

Answer 13

provide your webpage here. chances are quite a few people who have clicked your question are thinking about putting their babies up for adoption. good luck

Answer 14

http://www.parentprofiles.com

But you have to have a homestudy before you can use it. If you haven't gotten one yet, find a social worker here- http://home-study.adoption.com/

I wish you and your family the best!